Mindset

Business Communication, Mindset

Now you see it …

Now you see it … Have you noticed? Blue cars are everywhere. For the longest time, you could drive around town and see black cars. White cars. And gray or silver cars. Maybe the occasional red or maroon. No blues, no greens, no nothing. I drove my black Buick for 12 years—so when the time came for a new car, I was more than ready for a splash of color. Not like the Purple Probe I drove in the ‘90s, of course, but at least a little color. And I finally have my new Honda CRV. I got the Sport Touring Package, because I’m so darn sporty.🙄 Okay, really it’s because I wanted the hybrid engine that’s only available with the Sport trim. I also wanted Canyon River Blue because, color. And apparently, I’m not alone. Blue cars are everywhere. I definitely notice more blue cars than I did six months or a year ago. But maybe it’s not because more of them are on the road. Maybe it’s just because I see them now, where I didn’t before. And that’s not about the cars … it’s about the brain.

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Communication, Mindset

Tell Me About Your Sorrow

Tell me about your sorrow. Still with me? What went through your mind when you saw that title, “Tell me about your sorrow”? Did you contemplate skipping this one, moving on to some other, cheerier subject line? “10X your business before summer” or something like that? Mostly, we shy away from even acknowledging sorrow or suffering. When it’s our own, we might ignore it, eat about it, drink about it, or use drugs to block it out. Or maybe we stay busy, trying to bury it in frenetic activity. There are a lot of ways to turn away from our own sorrow. And when it’s somebody else who’s suffering?

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Mindset, Speaking

The Confidence Question—and an Answer

The Confidence Question—and an Answer: It was a familiar request. So many clients come to me with the same goal. “I want,” she said, “to sound and feel more confident when speaking in person and on Zoom, especially when introducing myself and explaining what I do.” You know I don’t offer myself as a mindset coach, although people often do change their mindset during our work together. In a way, I’m more of a bodyset coach. Seems to me that one good path to a new way of thinking and feeling is through the body. And it starts, of all places, with the feet.

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Mindset, Speaking

This, too …

This, too shall pass. It was such a good reminder in an email from a friend. “It came to pass,” she wrote. “It did not come to stay.” Exactly right! Whatever “it” is in our lives right now, one thing we can be sure of is that it came to pass. And our experience tells us it definitely didn’t come to stay. It’s so easy to get into a spiral of doom when things go badly in our personal or professional lives. I don’t know about you, but I find myself imagining that life will remain exactly as it is today—forever. Maybe you lost a job you loved and thought, “I’ll never find another position as perfect for me.” “I’m going to miss those wonderful colleagues I won’t see anymore.” Or even, “I’ll never work again.” (Yes, I have more than a passing familiarity with unemployment.)

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Communication, Mindset

How’s Your Social Fitness?

How's your social fitness: Mine is right there in black and white: “There’s room for you to develop some good social fitness habits that will keep your relationships strong.” Let’s just say I didn’t get an A+ on the Friendship Quiz from the New York Times. Their Well newsletter writers concede that I do have “the outline of a healthy social network.” But, they tell me, “You could go a step further.” Are you wondering why I’d take a Friendship Quiz? Or why a paper like the NYT would run one? They’re not Cosmo, after all. The quiz is step one in Well’s week-long “Happiness Challenge” based on the idea that happiness helps us stay healthy, and robust relationships are among the things that make us happy. In fact, they may be the main thing that makes us happy.

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